Violence is perhaps a hallmark of our nature? A curse that has condemned our existence on earth? Some myths represent us as selfish and violent in nature. for Nonviolent Communication (NVC ), however, the violence we see in the world and that we experience in everyday life, is largely a problem of education and communication.
What is alive in me? What is alive in you? For the CNV these are two key questions, which in their simplicity, they help us to experience another way of relating, based on respect and empathy. A natural language is to express, simply and honestly what who is alive in us, without labeling or insulting others. Unfortunately it is a language that we have forgotten and the task of the school in this sense can be decisive.
Children and young people of school age consolidate an attitude that separates them from their needs and their feelings on what is most precious and we live as human beings and learn a language, habit, from alien life.
In my experience working in schools I have observed that at the age of 7-8 years children are often disconnected from what they feel. Other times, they are in contact, but are ashamed to express this wealth, for fear of being judged negatively if they show their feelings and needs.
be connected to their feelings and their needs helps us to perceive what is alive in others, even when it is expressed in a way difficult to receive, in words that may appear as critical, moralistic judgments or claims. That's how we discover our true nature as human beings and enjoy the natural pleasure of contributing to the mutual well-being.
change that promotes CNV starting from education, not merely a set of concepts, nor a change in school curricula, but is much deeper. Guide us in rethinking the how we express ourselves and listen to others, giving greater consideration to every human being, beginning with children. Through these relationships we can enable more young people to gain experience and build skills to build the foundations for a future society more just and less violent.